Posted by loswhit in Authenticity,fatherhood

Hey kids.
There are things that you are missing in childhood that I thought we, your parents raised in the 80′s and early 90′s need share with you.
It’s not that you aren’t having a fantastic life, but it’s just not as fantastic as it was in the 80′s.
It’s a bit scarier and dirtier, but it’s still a beautiful place to live.
You marvel at the concept of having to wake up early on a Saturday morning to watch a certain cartoon.
So listen…

1.  When I was 6 I started riding my bike to school down Sprucewood Dr., through the cul-de-sac, down Angie Maddox’s driveway, past her mom’s garden, across the creek (hoping it was raining so I could act like the Duke Boys), and onto the playground at Rehoboth Elementary School.

We will barely let you to the end of the driveway without checking on you every 5 seconds.

I know that sucks but our parents didn’t watch Criminal Minds like we do. So we are screwed.  And this is where life on a farm becomes the goal…

2.  On road trips we had no iPhones and iPads and our gameboys would only last about 2 hours with 4 AA batteries. So we would get on my dad’s CB radio and talk to the truckers on the highway.
They were always so crude until they heard a child’s voice on the radio.  Then they would tell us stories of life on the road.
I remember how a child’s voice would calm a giant.
It was awesome.

3.  Upstairs in the attic I have a box of Love Letters from girls I was in “Love” with.  It would take about a week for my letter to get to them and a week to hear back.

The power of PAUSE is something that we have lost and it brings such strong emotion when you let it in.
It used to be forced yet now must be invited.
Make that guy or girl write you letters.
It takes time, patience, and devotion and it is worth every walk to the mailbox.

4.  My first camera was called The Kodak Disc.  I was able to take 15 pictures before I had to buy another disc to take 15 more pictures.  Every shot was worth something.

You are growing up in a world where you take 100 shots and pick the best one.
I dare you to wait until it’s right to click the button.

This applies in life as well as instagram.

5.  When I was growing up I had to chase sin a lot more than it chased me.
My friend Brian and I would have to sneak into his dad’s closet and open the shoebox on the top shelf then sprint out to the backyard and into the treehouse in order to see the girls in bikinis on the motorcycles and ooooh and aaaaah.

I can’t take you into Toy’s R Us without realizing that more than half the dolls are dressed like strippers and one wrong click on the internet will expose your eyes to things not meant for anyone to see.

I can’t imagine when you become teens what you will have to handle.
But I do know this.
I can’t raise you inside a locked castle.
The world is a beautiful place.

So instead of locking you up and throwing away the key we are going to do something else.
We are going to keep teaching you to fix your eyes on Hope and Truth so that when you do click that link, you won’t have to make that decision alone.

God is not scared of 2012 and neither should we be.
Now shut that iPad off and go build a treehouse then maybe I’ll let you watch The Great Space Coaster.

It’s better that way.
Me

  • BriAnne

    I may not be a parent but this is so true and such an awesome way to look at things.. life growing up was so different for us than it is for kids now.. I’m so thankful my 13yr old sister actually prefers being outside than to be on her gameboy.. I work with kids who have their electronics taken away when the come to us.. it takes them a few days, but then they never miss them.. real play is way better.. the world is scary, but teaching them there is something way better is the best.. way to go Los and Heather..

    • JeannaB

      They are not gameboys any more, BriAnne, they are DS’s lol (my kids correct me on this CONSTANTLY!). My kids only play with their game systems when we are on long road trips, our wii and xbox are both broken, we have yet to get a flat screen tv and our satellite internet often times works only slightly better than dial-up. It’s better this way I think :)

  • Shirley

    It would take FOREVER to get photos developed. You had to drop them off at the store…or mail them in. Either way…it was days…sometimes a week before you got to see them!

    In the safety of our home, my son can play wherever he wants…outside those doors…he never leaves my sight for more than a few seconds.

    It’s scary for our kids…but as our pastor said this weekend. Ultimately we’re trusting God. “God’s got it”

  • Lyric

    Carlos, under the description “I Am:” I would add an amazing father. And no, that doesn’t imply perfection… ;)

    • http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com loswhit

      Thanks friend…

  • JeannaB

    Love it Los! My oldest boy said to me the other day, “Mom, rated PG when you were a kid wasn’t the same as it is now, huh?” “No, son, it wasn’t and that is why, despite the PG-13 rating, you will not be watching The Hunger Games or any other movie I deem innappropriate. Now go turn back on The Last Starfighter!”

    • http://dubdynomite.com dubdynomite

      I *love* The Last Starfighter. Some other of my favorite classics in this same vein are The Explorers and Flight of the Navigator.

      I really need to get these and introduce my kids to them.

      • http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com loswhit

        TRUTH!!!

      • MJT

        See you later Navigator

  • http://tackelbox.wordpress.com Keith

    Awesome on so many levels but reminding me of The Great Space Coaster alone would have been worth clicking the link!

    • http://www.ragamuffinsoul.com loswhit

      you know it.

  • http://dubdynomite.com dubdynomite

    I echo Keith’s sentiment. The Great Space Coaster was the stuff. You just earned major bonus points from me for that.

  • Derek

    Love it. Great post, man.

  • Jaeleigh

    You have hit the nail on the head with this letter in every way. I have an 11 year old step son (who my husband and I raise full time) and I often find myself comparing “today” with “when I was a kid”.

    I watch him like a hawk whenever we are out, and I wonder if the world is really more dangerous today or if we have become more paranoid because of things like “criminal minds” and whatnot. When I was 11 I would leave the house in the morning and come home at dark without ever checking in with my parents all day. I would lose my mind if my kid did that to me.

  • http://taminprogress.com Tam

    perfectly said.

    and, really, the 80′s were the bestest.

  • http://jonnmcdaniel.com Jonn McDaniel

    Dude, that was like, totally rad. Keep it up.

  • http://www.chrisrouse.us Chris

    I’m only 25 and grew up like that in the 90s. Both of my parents worked full-time so I spent a lot of time on my own after school and during the summers as I got older. I played in the woods behind my house with my friend who lived up the street, or we hung out at his house (his mom was a stay at home mom but never bothered up), road our bikes all over the neighborhood, etc. When we moved to “the city” I did the same with a friend there and neither of us really ever had to check in with our parents. I only ever checked in if one of us wanted to stay for dinner at the other guy’s house.

    I was also allowed to play with sticks and rocks and dirt and ride a bike without cumbersome safety gear. And it was a fixed-gear bike before they were cool. I plan on being the kind of parent that let’s my kid be a kid and get dirty and scratched up having fun outside.

  • http://www.chriswalkerlive.com Chris

    I totally wore that same Chewbacca costume for Halloween when I was a kid.

    Wish my kids could have the same freedoms I did as a child in the 80′s.

  • http://mountaingrove.org JoshC

    I miss Thundercats.

  • dantheman

    Los…how is it you have a knack for writing exactly what u would write if i had the ability? This is awesome man. Couldn’t be better. Thanks for your leadership and encouragement.

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  • David H

    I remember the anticipation of getting up on Saturday to find what happened to snake eyes on GI JOE and then my mom closing the screen door and telling me not to come back until it was dark or until she needed me. I also remember when no one was upset that you did not answer the phone when they called because the only phone you had was at home!

  • L.

    Los, why aren’t you writing books???

    Our kids need to be taught the joy of anticipation. I remember how I couldn’t wait to get home to see whatever show with the cute guy I just happened to have a crush on at that moment. My parents were some of the very last to get that piece of pure magic known as the VCR.

    I remember back when swings at elementary school didn’t have seat belts. In fact, the whole goal was to swing as high as we could and then jump out. Wonder Woman had nothing on me!

    I love your comment on how you had to chase sin a lot more than it chased you. Now a days, our children can go to Target and see the Sleeping Beauty porn series by Ann Rice – just a few rows up from school supplies. I kid you not.

  • http://redclayponderings.wordpress.com Danita Clark Able

    I love your letter! Absolutely perfect! Several months back, I posted a letter ( http://lettersfromawhoremongerswife.com/2012/01/12/letter-to-my-sixteen-year-old-self/ ) to my 16 year-old self….sort of this same format. I think we should all take the time and consider the things our pasts can teach the present…

    Great post!

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  • Melea Anderson

    I know I’m a tad late on this but I just wanted to say that you’re right. I’m one of the offspring(just turned 18, whoop!) and though I still have some of the amazing aforementioned memories, much of it is lost on many people my age. It’s quite sad. Part of me wishes I could’ve survived high school then, because it’s an entirely different beast now(from what I hear from my mom). But at least I know I have Hope that never changes, regardless of the decade.

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